Saturday, February 4, 2017

"You don’t have to answer me, but I’m happy to listen if you’d like to share." Teaching your kids the art of self-reflection

We’ve been talking about staying connected with our kids as they grow in my parenting support classes for parents of teens and tweens. Parents want to support their growing kids to become interdependent adults who are aware of themselves and their needs and are aware of others around them. 

You know, we want to raise the kid who notices when your hands are full and it might be helpful for him to hold the door open for you or to grab a bag to help? Or the ones who can take responsibility for their own choices.

Self-reflection gets the ball rolling. When they can connect with how it feels for them, they can connect with how it might feel for someone else. When they notice what something is like for them, they're more likely to ask what needs to happen next or what they can change.

But how do we get started?

The tips below are especially important as kids enter middle childhood, pre-adolescence and teen years, but you can practice when they’re little, too. Especially number one!!

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1.     Start with you. This ability to self-reflect, to know what one needs, starts with us and then with our relationship with our kids. Start with yourself.

I asked my parents in the last round of support classes to self-reflect and share what they noticed about themselves. These were actual examples parents shared in our classes last month:

“I stayed up too late playing on Facebook and now I’m tired today.”
“I ate potato chips and chocolate for lunch and now I am having difficulty focusing.” (That one was mine…lol. Similar ones were shared by the parents in the class.)
“I went to a Kickboxing class and feel so energized today!”
"I had some alone time to actually read a book today! Ahhhh... I needed that."

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2.     Share what you observe about yourself with your kids. As we, as parents, begin to pay attention to what makes us feel good and not so good, we can share that with our kids out loud. As you begin to share those things out loud, your kids will naturally start considering them, especially if there isn’t any pressure from you.

Just share what you notice about yourself with your kids in casual conversation. Share when it worked for you (“I feel so great after I went for a run this morning!”) and when it didn’t (“I didn’t get outside yesterday at all and I’m noticing I have less energy today.”).

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3.     Begin asking your kids what things feel like for them. Don’t expect them to answer, but be open to a conversation if they’d like to share. The key here is to help them to learn for themselves when something is working for them and when it’s not working, rather than having you or another outside force make that decision for them. Try questions like these:

“I wonder what it feels like for you when you stay up too late at night? How do you feel the next day? You don’t have to answer me, but I’m happy to listen if you’d like to share.”

“I noticed you had a hard time getting to sleep last night. Did anything you did or didn’t do earlier in the day make it harder to get to sleep? I know sometimes when I have a hard day, I didn’t get enough exercise, or I’m thinking about something that happened earlier that I have a hard time falling asleep. You don’t have to answer me, but I’m happy to listen if you’d like to share.”

Kids need to learn to pay attention to themselves so they can learn what they need, but they need us to start asking those questions without the expectation of an answer. This isn’t telling them that they stayed up too late and now you’re grounding them. This is encouraging them to become responsible for themselves by connecting with themselves. That’s a totally different thing.

We want them to be responsible, empathetic and observant. We want our kids to get to know themselves. For some kids (and adults), knowing what things are like for them and what they need is brand new. Take some time and play with it for yourself in your own life. Introduce the idea to your kids and encourage them to notice things about themselves and see what happens.

I’d love to hear what you notice when you start paying more attention to this for yourself and for them. What happens? How does it feel? Do you notice your kids taking more responsibility? Please share!

More parenting support classes are starting soon! We're running a class for Consciously Parenting Couples (to help parents stay connected as partners), Consciously Parenting Children with Special Needs, and another class for parents with kiddos between the ages of 5-9. Classes start the week of Monday, Feb. 6! As of this writing, only 3 spots remain in each class. Click each class name above for more information and to join!

Wednesday, December 14, 2016

The Dance of Independence with Our Kids; Tween and Teen Support Classes Information

We all want our kids to grow up to be as independent as possible, right? As the mother of two boys, who are now somehow almost 18 and just turned 13, I know it is on my mind quite a lot. Did you know that the independence our kids show as older kids and teens starts when they're babies? Even in the womb? And the foundation of independence is actually dependence and interdependence? Let me explain.

As I'm sure you probably already know, young children need a strong connection and lots of time and energy on the part of their parents. It is appropriate developmentally for young children to be fully dependent, even if our culture suggests otherwise. 

To take it a step further, the relationship between parent and child is really inter-dependent because it is a relationship with rich communication between both parents and child, beginning even before birth. Spending the time to be present in all ways (not perfectly or every minute, but being "present enough") and care for them is truly an investment in their social, emotional, and future mental health. All children need to have a strong bond with at least one adult. We know this connection makes all the difference. Children need to be seen, heard, and felt, as Ray Castellino states about babies. It's really what we all need.

What happened in their early years becomes especially important as children reach the pre-teen and teen years. This is the time when children still need to be connected, still need to have parents who are invested in them, but are ready for more independence in a series of forward and backward steps. They're still very much inter-dependent, just in new ways.

Photo credit: Laurel Perry,

But this is the part that can be really tricky for us as parents. How much is too much decision-making for these older, yet still young, kids? How much isn't enough? What about sleep and technology? What about their education? Helping around the house? Their relationships with their friends? How do we foster inter-dependence here? They're not the only one in the family, so it can't just be whatever they want to do and disregarding everyone else's needs.

The answer comes out of our relationship, of how well we know our kids and the strength of our bond, as we head into adolescence together. We are the ones who know our children and can encourage them as we see they are ready for another step without pushing too much (our agenda). When we can really see who they are and where they are, putting our own ideas aside, we can guide them to take the steps they're ready to take.

Here's a personal story from my own family, including a picture taken from that same day.

When my youngest was 8, we moved to a new condo complex. There were many buildings and lots of places to get lost, so for a little while, he wouldn't venture out on his own past the hallway in front of our apartment. I respected that we had just moved and also that he is my kid who tends to be directionally challenged anyway, so I watched and waited, encouraged and connected. We talked about how to get different places each time we went out together (scaffolding- giving him a structure upon which to learn) and I let him know that he would know when he was ready and knew where to go.

One evening, I was down at sunset inside the complex with some friends and he called me from the apartment phone to say that he was going to walk down by himself. About 5 minutes later, he was there, full of pride at what he had accomplished. We took this picture as he paused and took in the sunset after his walk down on his own. He was 9 by this time and he was ready for this step in his independence.

But pay attention to something here. Just like when toddlers are exploring a new environment, they need to go out into the world and then come back to check in with us again. They move away, then move closer together to connect. The same happens as our kids grow. We're still their touch-point, their secure base, ideally. My son explored on his own and connected back in with me when he reached his destination.

Photo Credit: Tra Hitt

Learning how to support your children toward independence is a dance of moving away and coming back together, much like when they first learned to walk. Sometimes it is difficult or scary to watch them move away with the potential for getting hurt (whether it is with friendships, the possibility of getting physically hurt or emotionally hurt, or making mistakes that might have long term consequences). We want to protect our kids AND we need to help them learn to trust themselves, and to protect themselves, at age appropriate and developmentally appropriate times.

Many parents have been asking for more support in parenting with attachment in mind with their older kids, so I am setting up some online virtual parenting support classes for parents with children between the ages of 9 and 19 (ish) who want some support in finding their way with their kids.

Class sizes are limited to 8 families AND I'm doing something a little different with registration for this class based on your feedback. You get to "pay-what-you-can," starting as low as $10/class! 

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P.S.S. More classes are coming for parents of toddlers and preschoolers, and early elementary-aged, too. Watch your email for more information and dates soon

Friday, January 2, 2015

"Christmas Vacation" meets "It's a Wonderful Life" or How Christmas Didn't Crash and Burn

Happy New Year!

What's on your heart and mind as the new year begins?

Were your holidays peaceful and loving? Or a chaotic? Or full of family drama? I'd love to hear!

Did you ever see the movie Christmas Vacation with Chevy Chase? There are several scenes where Chevy is very frustrated and upset. He kicks and beats up plastic reindeer from his front yard. He cuts down a tree from his front yard with a chain saw to replace the one burned down by his elderly relative.

Mine wasn't quite that bad, but I was worried for a while. Christmas Eve was so much like my own childhood Christmases, which were a bit like Christmas Vacation. Chaos. Emotional spewings. Blah. This year, things fell apart all over a present my youngest son got from his dad, a boat that he could play with in our pool. It was a hobby remote control speed boat, which apparently had some problems. First minute in the water and it lost a propeller. All the tiny little pieces fell to the bottom of the pool. The pieces were too small to see or to pick up with the net, so my 11 year old had to go into the cold pool and find the tiny pieces in the dark. He insisted. (I suggested a level head, daylight, and some sleep might help, but he didn't like that idea.)

An hour later, he finally found all the pieces and put the boat back together. My older son drove the boat to have a turn and it broke before it made it across the pool once. This is when the screaming started. Everything went downhill from here. No one handled it well. This is the part that reminded me of plastic reindeer flying through the air.

The thing that was so hard for me about this is that I grew up with chaos like this from my two younger brothers. Christmas was like this a lot. And I've worked really hard to have our holidays be very different. I was surrounded by friends and my partner who were there to help support my boys and me. That made all the difference. And our holiday wasn't ruined. In fact, when everyone did calm down, we were all able to reconnect. And Christmas Day was really great. It was a bit more like the ending of, "It's a Wonderful Life." That was a first for me.

Parenting consciously doesn't mean that everything is perfect all the time or that we always handle everything perfectly the first time. It's about recognizing when things are going down an undesired path, reconnecting with yourself and others who can support you so you can reconnect with your kids.

In the past, this would have ruined not only my day, but also my week. Instead, it helped me to see how far I've really come.

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Friday, November 7, 2014

When You're Feeling Disconnected From Your Child- 4 things you can do today to help

"I'm so upset! He's working completely against me. No matter what I do, he continues to speak to me disrespectfully. I've tried punishing him, but he doesn't seem to care. What am I supposed to do? I want a good relationship with my son, but he's making it impossible!"

Maybe you can relate to this mom's struggle. She had tried all the usual suggestions, but things hadn't improved. She had no idea what to do next. Many parents feel this way and find themselves at the end of their rope.

I've been there as a parent myself. I wanted to parent from a loving place, but my kid's behaviors were driving me crazy. Like a really bad kind of crazy. I didn't know what to do.

It took me years to figure it out, but I finally found something that really worked. These suggestions are a bit counterintuitive, but I promise they work to make big shifts in your relationship and in your child's behaviors long-term. I've seen big shifts in families who apply these ideas, even though they're counter to what most of us grew up with or see in our culture.

1. Set the behaviors aside. Yes, I'm serious. Whatever you think should be happening in that moment can't or it would be happening. If you can remember that all behaviors are a communication, it can be helpful to be more curious in the moment. The behaviors let you know how your child is feeling about himself and also how he's feeling about his relationship with you. Focus on the child instead, not what he's doing or not doing. See number 2.

2. What can you do to connect in the relationship right now? We're often so busy worrying about what our child is doing that we don't think about our child having her own experience. It doesn't mean her behaviors are all completely acceptable, but it means that we focus on the connecting part. Slow yourself down. Really look at your child's face. Does she look sad? Would she welcome a hug if it was offered? Can you validate his feelings, even if you don't understand why he's upset? (You look really sad because you can't find your favorite toy?)

3. Make room for the feelings. When you acknowledge how your child is feeling, you may be able to have a little more access to the feelings beneath the surface. Your child may start crying, for example. This is actually a good sign, especially if she was angry or really unreasonable to begin with. This is what was beneath it and you're moving through to the deeper layers. Just be there with your child and try not to say too much. Allow the feeling cycle to move through (this takes about 90 seconds, so do your best to stay with it) and things will begin to shift. Avoid asking your child why questions in these emotional spaces unless you can't listen anymore. Why pulls the child back into the thinking brain. When we do this too early, they don't finish it and it starts over again later, usually stronger.

4. Wait until after the emotional expressions are over before you try to address the behavior. Going back after the upset has ended is far more effective than trying to address what they did wrong and what they can do differently next time. This conversation needs to happen, but when your child is on "green" or in his thinking brain, not the feeling brain. (We lose access to about 25 IQ points when we're in our emotional brains. That isn't the time to bring up changing behaviors.)

What does this look like in real life? A client came to see me because she was concerned about her teenaged son. He wasn't doing well in school and he was lacking motivation for just about everything. She had tried talking about his grades, discussing the long-term consequences of his actions, punishments, bribes. Nothing was working.

Let's shift our paradigm here and focus on the relationship.

1. I suggested that she not mention the school work or what she was seeing that he was doing "wrong."

2. Instead, I asked her what she could do to connect more with him. She decided to meet him after school and do some special things with him, showing an interest in him and what was going on in his life, which she realized she really hadn't been doing. This didn't mean it was OK that he wasn't doing well in school, but it means that the relationship is more important than the school work. When we put the relationship first, the school work will often fall into place (unless there's something else going on that needs attention, which we are more likely to figure out if we listen first).

3. During the time they would spend together, slowly her son began to share his concerns. There was room for his feelings and his experience. The mother just listened.

4. In this situation, the mother brought up grades and school work after about a week by starting to talk about his classes and his goals. But this didn't happen until after they had spent a good amount of time connecting first. His mom showed an interest first so that he felt safe to share.

Just that little bit of extra time and attention without the conversation about his lack made a big difference. In just a couple of weeks, he was spending more time doing his homework and keeping up with assignments. His motivation increased. He knew what he needed to do. He had been feeling disconnected and it was showing up in his school work.

It's all about the relationship. When we put the relationship first, seeking to understand our child's point of view, many of our conflicts have a way of naturally unfolding in a way that helps us all to connect with each other in this very moment.

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Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Keeping it together... when we're angry or depressed... for the kids

"I'm scaring my kids," she said as she sat in my office one summer day. "What scares me the most is that I don't know how to make this different for me or for them."

This is a common theme I hear from parents. They're feeling completely spent, whether they're going through a rough patch with their spouse, have just begun the process of separation or divorce, or perhaps there's stress because there simply isn't enough support to parent effectively. (That whole outnumbered thing when we're really wired to outnumber the kids by having a whole tribe of people surrounding us as we parent, which is a far cry from what actually happens in our culture.)

And then I hear about the other ways they're dealing with the stress. The eating. The not eating. The compulsive exercising. The not exercising. Yelling. Drinking a little too much. Throwing things. They're not proud.

But I hear it quite a lot, actually. And I've done many of those things as a way of coping with my own stress because I've been undersupported, exhausted, spent, angry, sad, scared, depressed. And when we're parenting from this place, we're bound to make poor decisions. We're well intentioned, but we can't quite pull off being the parents we know deep down we'd like to be. So what's a parent to do?

The first thing is to recognize that our brain is capable of changing. It isn't stuck this way. We aren't doomed to keep doing the same thing if we want to change it.

Second, we can't always keep it together, so please don't should on yourself. This is why we have apologies. Going back and recognizing that we didn't handle something well and acknowledging it to the other person it effected is the first step in changing your brain. The next part is figuring out what you could do different, often after the fact.

Third, Rewind, Repair, Replay is a great strategy taken from Pam Leo's Connection Parenting. When you realize you have handled something in a way that doesn't feel good for you or your child, allow yourself to back up, apologize, and do it over again. There is something really powerful about those three magical steps. The "doing it over the way you wanted it to go" part actually helps create new neural pathways in your brain. And it models for our children what they can do when they mess up, complete with a heart-felt apology. It's really powerful.

For example, if you yell at your child, you first need to recognize that you handled something in a way that doesn't feel good to you and your child. This part is critical. Without seeing that something needs to be different, you can go no further. You'll keep doing what you've always done because you don't see that there's a problem. This part can be painful, though, because you are looking at something that isn't working. But remember, there's power here because this pain point is also something you can change with some awareness. Try not to get stuck here. This isn't the end.

Once you recognize it, begin by asking yourself what you need right now in this moment. Perhaps it is much later and you've already calmed down. What did you need then? If it is closer to when it happened, what do you need to support yourself? Some fresh air? A little walk? A run? Call a friend?

Hint: When we have big emotional expressions, we have energy that has been mobilized to keep us safe. Looking around the room, we may realize that the only visible threat is our 3 year-old. Our primitive brains can't really tell the difference between a real threat and something we could handle differently (red light), but that's what our thinking brains (green light) is for. Regardless, whether the threat is real or not, our energy is mobilized and needs to go somewhere that doesn't hurt us or anyone else. So one really good question is: "What can I do to move through the energy that just came up?" Emotion = energy in motion. Move your body!

The mom in my office, like so many who have come to see me, was really upset at herself for the way she'd been behaving with her kids. This fed into her feelings about herself and created more stress and more likelihood that the pattern would repeat. But when she began to actively find a way to move through the energy instead of turning it inward on herself, things began to shift.

A spoke with her several months later and she was in a completely different place. She was smiling from ear to ear and talking about what a different place she was in. She wasn't yelling much anymore and had started a regular practice of moving with her kids to head off the stress responses for all of them. And she had started the practice of going outside for a quick walk around the block when she was feeling angry so that the energy could move through her body without hurting anyone. She said the difference in her family was incredible.

What I want you to hear about this story is that there is always hope. We all have the power within us to change what we're doing and to actually use those opportunities to create more connection. Attachment isn't about parenting perfectly. It's about reconnecting after we've disconnected. That means that not only is it ok to "mess up" but that it is necessary to have those messy moments to really bond with each other. That's the strongest glue there is in a family. Try it and let me know how it goes by responding in the comments.

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Monday, November 3, 2014

On the day of candy

I didn't manage to publish this on Halloween as I got wrapped up in work and then costumes. So even though it is late, I figure better late than never. It will be up for next year! Let me know your thoughts about this! What did you do? Did you turn off your lights and hide? Did you send the kids out and have the Sugar Fairy come later that night to trade the candy away? I'd love to hear what you do in your family, so post in the comments!

It's October 31 and here in the US, that means Halloween for many families. I have a love-hate relationship with this particular holiday. I love the costumes. I love watching the kiddos dress up and come to the door. But I don't like all the candy and what that does to our family- the battles, the moodiness from the sugar, the changes in routine, the excitement of the whole thing that overwhelms the little ones. Perhaps you've been there, too?

My youngest at a Waldorf Fall Festival, 2009

My Halloweens past are filled with memories of cute costumes- the year my oldest (now 15) was a puppy (he was about 10 months old). He wouldn't stand up in the costume and I'm pretty sure he was overheated in that plush costume even in the air conditioning that year on that 95 degree day in South Florida. And one year that bordered on ridiculous with the tantrums over wanting candy when my youngest son had horrible dental issues (on a sugar-free diet), followed by the complete disintegration of both of us after he ate some. That was the year I was on red and swore that I wouldn't be doing Halloween ever again. EVER.

So if we do choose to participate in the Halloween thing, how can we move gracefully through this day keeping our relationship intact? I mean, besides wine. Lots and lots of wine.

Figure out what your own limits are for this holiday. Are you going to all dress up? Are you going to go to a movie instead? Are you going to Publix while it is still light outside and calling it an evening? Trunk-or-treating? Having a small party for like-minded families where the kids can dress up, but not actually trick-or-treat? What are YOU ok with doing, even if that's nothing? Make a conscious decision to move into (or out of) this holiday with intention, starting with you.

Explore your options. Some families let their children go trick-or-treating, let them choose a few pieces of candy, then leave the candy for the "sugar fairy" who exchanges the candy for a toy. Some families donate the candy to the troops after it has been enjoyed for a day or two. One or two years, we mailed the extra candy to the boys' uncle as part of an on-going family joke. Some families opt to go with the special treats in exchange for what has been collected, especially those with allergies or other dietary restrictions. It can be a hard holiday when you add any sort of special need. Another family doesn't celebrate the holiday at all and some of her children (who are older) buy 50% off candy tomorrow. The younger ones opt out entirely.

Look at what your child really needs. Some children are completely overwhelmed by this holiday. Respect that. I remember the first year my youngest went trick-or-treating when he was really aware of what was happening. He was 3 or 4. We went out early while it was still light outside, but the first person he saw in a mask flipped him out. We ended up going to about 4 houses and then I took him back home. Done. And that was just fine with me. Your children will tell you what they need. There is no need to push them beyond their comfort zone, especially on Halloween.

Talk about what is going to happen before you leave the house. I can't emphasize this enough, especially with little ones. For sensitive children, trick-or-treating can be a difficult experience, even though it is fun for you. Talk about where you're going to go and what kinds of things they might see. Let your child know that he can let you know when he's finished even if they haven't made it around the whole block yet.

A word about thank you. I was teaching Connection Parenting by Pam Leo several years ago when a dad described how he handled each door when someone gave his child candy. Instead of telling his son to, "Say thank you," this dad simply thanked the person handing out candy himself in a sincere way. There was another dad and son pair walking with them at each door. The other parent was prompting his son at each stop to say thank you. When they got to the end of the block, the prompting parent's son was still being prompted. The other child, whose father had been modeling what he wanted him to do, had taken over half way down the street and was saying a heart-felt thank you to each person and the father wasn't saying anything. Try it and let me know what happens in your family!

Tell me about your experiences! What did you do (or not do)? What worked for you this year? What didn't work? What would you like to try next year? Tell me in the comments.

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

"I'm here to bring hope," said my 10 year-old

I spent the weekend thinking deeply about my life’s purpose, immersed in Oprah’s Live the Life You Want weekend in Miami. I came home and was sharing some of my experiences with a friend on the phone when I noticed my son was listening intently. He’ll be 11 next month and has always been a deep and sensitive soul, especially with me.  

I was sharing that Oprah began with the words, “Why are you here? What are you here to do in this life?”

My son looked into my eyes and said, “I know why I’m here.”

I stopped my conversation. That’s the kind of thing that completely gets your full attention as a parent.  I paused and said, “You do? Tell me why you are here.”

“I’m here to bring hope.”

 My heart swelled. What a statement for anyone, let alone a 10 year-old. I waited and he continued.

“When Jacob died, you needed hope. And when I was born, I gave you hope. So I know I’m here to bring hope.”

He was right.  He was conceived 5 months after my baby, Jacob, had died from a fatal birth defect. I was ready to try again and I felt confident that things would be ok this time around, yet I was still grieving. My whole world was shaken to the core. I didn’t know how anyone could really recover from such a loss. I felt like there would always be a giant gaping hole in my heart that would never be better. I continued to do my own work before and during (and well after) the pregnancy with him, but he certainly grew in the sadness I was experiencing, along with the waves of fear that things might not be all right.

We’ve talked about his birth. We’ve talked about the baby brother he never knew who came before him.  We’ve talked about how much I wanted to have him and how loved he was and always will be. But I had forgotten the story I had told him about hope. But he hadn’t.

I believe it was Oprah this weekend who said, “Hope is the simple belief that things can change. Despair is that tomorrow will be another version of today.”

I needed things to change. I needed to believe my body could have a healthy baby. I needed to know in my heart that I wouldn’t always be shrouded in a cloud of grief. I needed to see the beauty in every day moments. Honestly, it would have been easy to just have thrown my hands up in the air, curled into a ball and never look up again- except that I had another child already, a little boy who was 3 1/2 who needed me. And so I got up and made breakfast instead of staying in bed on those cold Indiana winter days while it rained or snowed or was just dark and grey outside. And, true to my nature, I searched for answers so that tomorrow wouldn’t be the same as today.

These moments always contain choices. We can be defined by the sadness of the story or the hope. We can allow something that happens to us to be the reason we stop trying or the reason why we must propel ourselves forward. Every situation, no matter how dire it seems, contains the opportunity for defining ourselves and our path forward. And we have the opportunity with our children to help them define their own stories as a hero’s journey, no matter what happened by the stories we tell to them.

We can rewrite those stories so that we are the hero. We can rewrite those stories so that they define us in ways that help us to grow. And we can begin doing that today.

I’m here to bring you hope. Hope for you. Hope for your family. 

"Because it is always darkest before the dawn and the sun always rises." Oprah

Sunrise pictures courtesy from my Facebook friends. Thanks all!

Sunrise in Satellite Beach, FL, courtesy Kim Bannister
Sunrise over Albuquerque, NM, courtesy of Deborah Barkoff
Sunrise in Clearwater (entitled, When You Wake Up on Red!) courtesy of Susan Stroemel Graham
Sunrise in NY from a bus, courtesy Clare Uppenbrink
Sunrise Satellite Beach, FL, courtesy of Kim Bannister
Sunrise Punta Gorda, FL, courtesy of Cecilia Wilhelm
South Nevada in August, courtesy Teresa Lewis Lass

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