tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871823249683469928.post463746641751200554..comments2023-09-09T06:50:20.652-07:00Comments on Consciously Parenting: 30 Day Challenge, Day 3Rebecca Thompson, M.S., MFThttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03881608451307053262noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871823249683469928.post-35345687169212780562010-09-05T10:13:36.412-07:002010-09-05T10:13:36.412-07:00That's a really great way to look at what real...That's a really great way to look at what really happens when we don't take care of ourselves. Many parents feel like they need to be there and "on" with their kids 24/7 and it just isn't possible. Much better to retreat and take care of yourself proactively, finding people who can support you and your child (or children), than to just "check-out" unconsciously. I love your goal of just 4 minutes a week. It doesn't have to be a huge commitment! :-)Rebecca Thompson, M.S., MFThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03881608451307053262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7871823249683469928.post-64986454179222925982010-09-03T10:34:08.366-07:002010-09-03T10:34:08.366-07:00in my mothers of sons group that meets monthly we ...in my mothers of sons group that meets monthly we recently discussed a concept from the book "Scream-free Parenting" of 'escape' vs 'retreat'... that if you don't consciously retreat (self-care) you will unconsciously escape (check-out). we all agreed that we escape more than we retreat and that we'd like to figure out how to shift that without adding one more thing to our lists of things to feel bad about. So i like your 30 day challenge and your list of manageable things. One of the retreats i have been taking is more frequent contact with people who are beloved to me. people who I, in my first 18 months of parenting, lost touch with because I couldn't settle into our familiar style of lengthy conversation. My goal is 4 minutes a week of exchanging what we're grateful for, or feeling proud of, or simply something beautiful we saw recently - to keep that heart connection going!Leah Deragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05144915373157327755noreply@blogger.com